Me being the emotional person that I am, of course I wanted to write some stuff that would definitely not be a great advertisement for my blog, not even close to good advertisement for me as a person. So I called up a person very dear to me in my life, who acted as my emotional adviser. I explained to her the situation and told her what I wanted to write. She listened carefully and then told me to think about it again. So I stepped out of my shoes and thought about the situation from an outside perspective.
The conclusion that I came to, with her help of course, was to be polite, well mannered, and try to understand where each person was coming from. When responding to the emails, I explained that my blog can help nursing students, as it focuses on wellbeing, health and motivational entries, along with BJJ and personal anecdotes from my life. I also told them that I am sorry for bothering them and that they can block me whenever they please. The moment I sent out responses to those three emails, I let go of all the aggravation I felt in the moments of receiving them.
I felt very provoked to attack by those emails because my blog is something that I write passionately and it totally relates to my identity. I felt that they were attacking me personally by telling me not to advertise on the nursing list.
What I realized was that it was just something they said. It did not mean they did not like my blog, and it especially did not mean that they did not like me as a person. They could have never even clicked the link for all I know. I totally respect what they said and asked them to block me on the mailing list so I would not bother them in the future.
The next day I was sitting in class and my fellow student asked me if I was “the guy with the website”. After my eyes lit up, & I replied yes, she said that she really liked my blog, and that she could relate to my stories. She added that after reading it, she couldn’t stop laughing and that it really made her day. In parting, I said “Thank you!” and she answered “No, thank you for putting your life out there for the world to read!” After that conversation I had with this girl, I realized that just that one positive review completely overshadows every request that I received not to advertise on the nursing list.
What I learned with this experience is that you shouldn’t let simple words get to you, because not everyone is going to agree with what you do. So before answering someone on a bad head, sit down and call a friend that will listen to you for only 5 minutes. But make sure they don’t just sit there and agree with you all the time. You need the truth to realize that you are about to make a mistake.
Be a responsible human-being for yourself and for others. Don’t let your emotions get to you. Don’t make impulsive decisions based on anger and frustration. Especially if it’s a decision that can escalate things to unnecessary proportions and further frustrate both parties.
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